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GF won’t let man attend events where ex is present

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

Q. I am throwing my best friend a surprise 40th birthday party. She is divorced and her ex is my husband’s best friend. They were getting along just fine and would have easily attended the same party until he started dating another woman. This woman is very jealous and will not allow my BFF’s ex to be around my BFF, even if it is one of their children’s birthday parties. I would invite both the ex and my BFF to the party, but his girlfriend probably won’t have it. I think I should explain to him why he’s not being invited. What’s good ex-etiquette?A. Oh what a tangled web we weave. To be blunt, this is your friend’s ex’s problem, not yours. He dates whom he wants and gets the baggage along with it.From an ex-etiquette standpoint, it is not the host’s responsibility to mediate between exes. The only responsibility a host has to their guests is to be gracious, kind and polite.Quite frankly, I took more notice that this new woman in your friend’s life will not allow him to attend his c...

Orioles crush Rays, 8-0, behind Grayson Rodriguez and Gunnar Henderson to reach verge of postseason clinch: ‘This is what you dream of’

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

In games like these, youth and inexperience are often referenced as negatives. Grayson Rodriguez and Gunnar Henderson flipped that narrative Saturday night.The Orioles’ two youngest players entered the season as the club’s top two prospects and among the sport’s best. In the biggest game of their careers, the pair proved that their immense talent matters far more than their lack of experience.Rodriguez masterfully twirled eight scoreless innings, while Henderson hit an early home run to break the offense out of its slump to carry the Orioles to a crucial 8-0 victory over the Tampa Bay Rays.“This is what you dream of whenever you go through the minor leagues together, is playing meaningful games in September,” Henderson said. “It was really fun to be able to go out there and especially watch him do his thing right behind him.”The win ended Baltimore’s four-game losing streak and put the club back in sole possession of first place atop t...

Try these techniques to control your anxiety

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

Dear Mayo Clinic: I recently turned 45 and have been dealing with anxiety for several years. My feelings of worry, stress and fatigue have increased, leading me to avoid social events and limit activities I used to enjoy. My friend suggested I try something she called mindfulness meditation to help manage my anxiety. What is this technique, and how can I start doing it?A: Anxiety is often described as sustained and excessive worry that a person cannot control related to the anticipation of a future threat, such as a traumatic event. At times, anxiety can significantly and adversely affect our daily lives, work, relationships and overall happiness. Anxiety also can manifest as an irritable, worried, restless and debilitating stress response lasting minutes to days. Most everyone has had anxiety surrounding a stressful situation.Anxiety becomes an obstacle when it affects our day-to-day lives. Anxiety can negatively affect people at home, work, school and socially.Emotionally, anxiety...

How detailed does documentation need to be?

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

Q. You know how the advice to clients is to document interactions and exchanges?  Well, how is that used?  I feel like I’ve written so much and don’t know how to synthesize it or make it less cumbersome for myself to write out.  Is demeanor important, what he says/does, how our kids appear, or just a date and cut-and-dry description of the events?A. The documentation is used for different purposes which makes it hard.  If you are still living in the same home, documenting interactions may become necessary to help prepare a detailed affidavit in support of a motion to vacate the home. This is where you need a very detailed account of interactions because you will need to recall what was said, who was there, the tone and demeanor and how you felt / what you did as a result of the interaction and how your children behaved.  The standard for a motion to vacate a home is difficult to meet. You need to show the judge in a short and busy motion session that there is risk to you...

Editorial: Identity politics drives American division

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

Social scientists believe they know why America has become so divided along political lines. “The human brain in many circumstances is more suited to tribalism and conflict than to civility and reasoned debate,” The Wall Street Journal reported last month in a piece headlined “Why Tribalism Took Over Our Politics.”Modern communication tools are especially able to exploit this finding, providing users with what they want to hear rather than challenging assumptions. “Decades of social science research show that our need for collective belonging is forceful enough to reshape how we view facts and affect our voting decisions,” the essay asserts. “When our group is threatened, we rise to its defense.”The Journal cites Donald Trump as a reliable practitioner of exploiting group identity, although it allows that Democrats also use the tactic, but “not as forcefully.”It’s true that the former president’s ardent supporters see themselves in similar terms as outsiders scorned by the elites. B...

New cat doing well, but older cat has issues

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

Dear Dr. John,I just adopted a new cat. He is adjusting well to his new home with me and my other cat. I lost another cat suddenly a few weeks ago. As I look at his neuter site, I notice there is still some swelling, and I cannot help but wonder if he was properly neutered. How can I be sure? My older cat that is approaching 13 has recently lost quite a bit of weight. Could it be because of the new younger cat being in the house or could it be something with his health? Could he be depressed because of the absence of the other cat? He seems normal, doesn’t always play with the young adult male, but seems to be eating less. What should I do? D.M.Dear D.M.,I am sure that your newly adopted cat was properly neutered. It is a relatively easy surgery and not prone to error or omissions. It is typical to have some localized swelling of the scrotal sac before it eventually contracts after which not much is seen in the area of where it originally was. The only way to be sure is to have the ...

Orioles’ Gunnar Henderson and Grayson Rodriguez left even the Rays impressed: ‘He had his A-game tonight’

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

Tampa Bay Rays manager Kevin Cash stood outside the visiting clubhouse at Camden Yards and could only shrug his shoulders at the masterclass from Orioles starting pitcher Grayson Rodriguez. Right fielder Josh Lowe shook his head at a similar line of questioning. And when Rays starter Tyler Glasnow reflected on his evening, it was Gunnar Henderson who invoked the most frustration.Within the Orioles clubhouse, the impressive performances from a rookie pitcher and rookie shortstop driving a crucial 8-0 win was just another night. To the Orioles’ American League East rivals, who trail by one game in the race for the division title, it was remarkable.Rodriguez took the mound for his third outing against the Rays this season. In each of his first two — both Orioles wins May 9 and July 22 — he allowed two runs in 5 2/3 innings while recording a combined 10 strikeouts. On Saturday night, the 23-year-old right-hander pitched a career-high eight innings, striking out seven a...

Zito: Pittsburgh labor fight exposes schism in Democratic Party

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

PITTSBURGH — Earlier this month, Philip Ameris, president of the Laborers’ District Council of Pennsylvania, was standing on Grant Street watching the members of his union march down the main thoroughfare of the annual Pittsburgh Labor Day Parade, the day’s largest such celebration anywhere in the country, when he said he saw Pittsburgh Mayor Ed Gainey hop over the barriers and jump in to join his labor force.“So the union members march behind a truck that has a banner with our name on it, Mayor Gainey jumping in right behind our guys gives the impression that we support him and he supports us, that is the perception,” Ameris said in an interview.“That is not, however, the reality, and I was having none of it,” he said.The labor president said he walked straight over to Gainey, shook his hand and both bluntly and colorfully told him to leave his position in the parade with his workers.“I essentially said you can go walk with anyone els...

Into art rock? Check out this trio of vinyl reissues

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

What is art rock? This question isn’t meant to be obtuse or rhetorical. Seriously, what the heck defines this genre?Art rock should probably navigate the unexpected, embrace experimentation and flirt with the odd while never forgetting pop craftsmanship.If you’re digging this definition so far, here are three new, wildly-different art rock vinyl reissues for you to dive into.“The Lexicon of Love,” ABCThis little masterpiece is art rock that’s pop. Pop that feels like a new romantic opera. Romance both intimate and epic.In 1982, ABC’s dramatic songs, lead singer Martin Fry’s dramatic voice, Trevor Horn’s dramatic production and Anne Dudley’s dramatic string arrangements came together on this meditation on heartbreak and rejection. The whole thing is wonderfully overwrought, dripping with strings and synths, horns and hooks – see best known tracks “The Look of Love” and “Poison Arrow.”Fry has said he was aim...

Inquisitive, sweet Yomiah loves music

Published Thu, 14 Nov 2024 10:16:32 GMT

Yomiah is a happy and inquisitive boy who is described by those who know him best as sweet and kind with a love of music. He sings a variety of songs, from B-I-N-G-O to Lady Gaga, and will often listen to musical toys by holding them up to his ears. Yomiah is an active child who likes to play independently, and will also engage with adults by reaching for their hands and sitting in their laps.Yomiah receives supportive services to assist him in all areas of development. He communicates using a combination of words, signs, and augmentative communication and is also working with tactile symbols and Braille. Yomiah benefits from individualized attention and support within a stable routine. He often sings specific songs to specific people, showing awareness and familiarity with them.Yomiah will be best supported by a family who has a medical background, or a willingness to learn, and who is prepared to support and advocate for him throughout his life. Caregivers who are patient, nurturi...